Are the lights off?

You can actually smell the heat; your lover’s aroma smothers your nostrils. Sometimes you attack them as soon as you walk through the door, you can wait no longer. That heavy panting in your ear never gets tiresome. Tonight you both move together like velvet and satin, almost temporarily defying gravity. Other times may not be so gracious and loving (hair is meant to be pulled). Battle scars from the night previous may fill you with that dirty sense of content, especially if the co-workers can’t see that lovely bite mark on your sweet spot beneath your cloths. It has to be done, even the homeless get wet and hard, and as much as cats fight, there always seems to be plenty of kittens.

I welcome my fellow "sexual deviants" all home. This is our dirty alley of the DAPS site. There is no fetish or act deplorable enough, no subject matter worth shunning. This is for positively charged opinions and helping each other above all (me included). If you are homophobic I suggest you stop being gay. If you are a boring moral uptight who thinks there is only one way to have sex, I will shit on your chest. I personally implore you to explore your personal limits and inhibitions. Listen, communicate, be safe and honest. As a boy I emphatically believe that if it is going to be grimy, it better be fun……

Now where to start? Is safety the primary subject? It is in one ear out the other with some fools. That will not suffice. Is it all based on communication of mouth and body? Honest heart-felt communication takes a spine and I know we got some real quivering pussies reading this. What about a mixture of the two? Maybe abandon all hope of any fine qualities a relationship should have, perhaps we should just discuss anal sex for a moment.
My dear friend “Beautiful Face” enjoys a little balloon-knot action from time to time, with one selective long time lover. BF recently told me an occurrence that she found quite embarrassing. At a social gathering BF was asked the simple question of if she had ever had anal sex before, by a female friend. Cock-face Tony, an associate to BF, was now listening and at full attention waiting for a reply. This is obviously none of his fucking business (this female friend needs to get a book on timing). However, blessed with the impeccable virtue of refusing to lie, BF began to cry. Knowing that delaying her answer, before crying, was enough, she had answered and was now stamped all over with porn star sex.

Is BF some dirty freak? No, trust me; you would let HER fuck your ass if you saw the legs this girl is rocking. Her occasional exploration is a great example of personal boundaries and a notoriously sensitive one at that. I am earnestly trying to avoid appearing to be ‘that guy’ to say that women are NOT sluts because of their personal kinkiness; I’m just enjoying playing Sodomy’s Advocate. We should all face the facts: people are doing it in the bum...a whole bunch, and you can quote me on that. It’s not just for priests and the gays anymore. The Center for Disease Control and Prevention sponsored a study in Chicago in '04 that produced data stating that one in three heterosexual couples were late night fudge-packing or had packed fudge once. We are also all very aware of the gem that is the male’s prostate gland (thank you American Pie). Plenty of men and women of a many sexual orientations happily practice anal sex with their partner and by themselves. The reason why is they are comfortable with it. It is within their boundaries.

Weather you are exploring the deep regions of space or the freshly lubricated brown eye of your lover the primary objective is safety, then the business. STI (sexually transmitted infection) is more than prevalent no matter who or what you are. The interior lining is very delicate and not all lubes are proactive for this style of sex so do a little research, the receiver will appreciate it. To love yourself you have to know yourself, so learn your own boundaries and keep everyone safe in the process. But how is that done? Simply try having an experience, with someone you would like to share it with. Take your time and perform it right, make sure you have the right knowledge and the correct tools (if need be). Not just because your three month long boyfriend asks for it. Expectations from another can be a Devil of a pressure that is ultimately rooted in control. Do it for yourself, experience is the building material of growth.